For caregivers

"They're sending Mom home tomorrow." Here's the next 48 hours.

Aging Sidekick gives you the questions to ask the case manager, a home-care plan to satisfy discharge planning, and a place to put the paperwork.

Aging Sidekick complements, not replaces, your healthcare team. In an emergency, call your local emergency number.

A daughter and her mother reviewing the discharge papers together at home

What an unsafe discharge actually is

An unsafe discharge is what you call out when the hospital is moving faster than you can safely receive a loved one home. Naming it triggers the discharge planner's review and slows things down long enough to make a real plan.

Tell the hospital social worker that she's an unsafe discharge as no one's available to care for her.
You need to tell the hospital THESE WORDS EXACTLY: 'I cannot accept my mother into her home. If you discharge my mother it is an UNSAFE DISCHARGE and I will call the Joint Commission (JCAHO) to relieve your hospital of its license to practice medicine. My mother is bedridden. I am physically, mentally and emotionally unable to care for her at this time.'

— AlvaDeer and PeggySue2020, AgingCare.com, May 2024.

What is happening

The discharge clock starts when the case manager says so.

Most families get less than 24 hours' notice before discharge. The case manager wants a home-care plan and a name to release your loved one to. You need clear questions, a plan you can hand back, and a way to keep every paper in one place.

A caregiver reviewing a printed care plan with her parent
What helps

Walk in with questions. Walk out with a plan.

A short, calm conversation with the case manager — backed by the right questions and a home-care plan they can sign off on — is the single biggest thing that slows an unsafe discharge.

  • Ten questions to ask before you accept the discharge
  • A printable Daily Care Plan you can hand to the case manager
  • A private place for the discharge summary and the new med list
See it in action

Three screens from the product

Aging Sidekick voice intake — a 15-minute conversation that builds a care profile

Voice intake — 15 minutes

Printable Daily Care Plan summary you can hand to the discharge planner

Printable Daily Care Plan

Upload the hospital discharge summary and get a plain-English read-back

Plain-English discharge summary

What about Medicare's 3-day rule?

Original Medicare only covers a stay at a skilled nursing facility (SNF) after a hospital stay if your loved one was an inpatient for at least three consecutive days. The midnights are counted starting the day they were admitted as an inpatient — the day of discharge does not count.

Watch for observation status. Time spent in the hospital under observation does not count toward the three-day requirement, even if your loved one was in a hospital bed the whole time. Ask the case manager: 'Is my mother admitted as an inpatient, or is she under observation?' Get the answer in writing.

Sources: Medicare.gov — SNF coverage · NIA — hospital discharge planning · AARP — observation status.

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10 questions to ask the hospital case manager

A printable, plain-English checklist of the ten questions to ask before discharge — diagnosis, medication changes, follow-up provider, equipment, after-hours nurse line, and what an unsafe discharge looks like.

10 questions to ask the hospital case manager

A printable, plain-English checklist of the ten questions to ask before discharge — diagnosis, medication changes, follow-up provider, equipment, after-hours nurse line, and what an unsafe discharge looks like.

FAQ

Caregivers ask these the most.

We did not get a printed discharge summary. Is that normal?
It can happen. Call the discharge nurse's line and ask them to email or fax it. While you wait, write down what you remember being told — diagnosis, new medications, follow-up dates.
My loved one seems more confused than before. Is that the medication?
Sometimes new medications cause confusion, but a sudden change is worth a call to the doctor or nurse line — even if it does not feel like an emergency.
I cannot remember what the nurse said about the wound dressing.
Call the unit you were discharged from and ask for a refresher. They will not be annoyed. Take notes on your phone or a sticky note.
Should we go to the emergency room or wait for the doctor?
Aging Sidekick is a planning tool — not a medical adviser. For chest pain, sudden weakness, slurred speech, severe bleeding, or trouble breathing, call your local emergency number. For everything else, the nurse line can help you decide.

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